Aug 08 2009
Sexual Identity
It’s a subject the mainstream media have already bombarded the youth of America. The message is clear: sexual freedom. Anyone is free to have sex whenever they want, whoever they want, and worry about the consequences later (ie. abortion). The media taught young girls it’s cool to lose their virginity early. For young boys, it’s a right of passage and a sign of manhood. In the end, as adults, it’s just part of “growing up”.
For me, I know for a fact, having sex out of context of marriage, was a destructive move. When both me and my girlfriend were not ready, it brought a lot of emotional baggage. The future seemed unclear because we were just focused on the moment. My own parents were not restricting my sexual freedom. I was allowed to learn my mistakes. I didn’t get any punishment – only empty warnings.
In hindsight, now that I’m a parent, I need to get involved in my daughter’s search of her sexual identity. Even though she is 4 right now, I still have to watch how I treat and influence her. As a Dad, I represent the man in the family, and let her know men are not the enemy, but also the provider of love and affection. I must be there when she has questions about boys/men.
These are the things I must insist on my child:
- Two distinct sex: man and woman. There can’t be same sex dating, let alone marriage!
- Both parents are wise. Our instructions are valuable, and must be kept in heart.
- Moral integrity. Biblical principles are important. No one can turn her away from them.
- Don’t let flesh control our actions. Avoid perversity. Be faithful!
- Meet the needs of the spouse. Be the best companion and friend.
